I really can not understand it, why chinese people are willing to get married without love. This is one of chinese habits which is hard to catch.
Why would you like to spend whole your life with a person towards who you do not feel love??
I grew up in the society in which it was one of the most important factor which should taken under consideration before getting married. If you love somebody, if you feel butterflies in your stomach, it gives you much more pleasure, you really want to spend your time with this person. For me personally, being with somebody without feeling something towards her is waste of time and i cant enjoy moments then, which in fact are the most important in our life.
But from the other hand, as one chinese person told me, desire and love after some time will fly away. After some time, not love but the character of another person will be the most important, how this person behave, treat others, if you are creative together.
After some time i have realised that maybe chinese point of view is not so stupid. When you are in love, you do not realise many things about another person, you see only good things. Afterwards you find out how many things are hard for you to accept.
Being with someone without feeling love in China is something natural, many people do it. Most often parents are the reason why young people are getting married without love. They find the partner for them. In China young people listen to their parent`s will and are ready to be related to somebody who was choosen by them.
Today my fellow-worker told me that she will be married until next year. When i asked her how many times did they meet before and if she loves him, she said that they met only 3 times, she does not love him because she does not know him well and their next meeting will be just before their wedding!!
Crazy, right?
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